With all the conflicting information out there about relationships, it is no wonder that so many people end up feeling lost, confused, and defeated when it comes to finding and sustaining healthy and fulfilling relationships.

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So many “relationship experts” remain fixated on helping their clients build “tools” for communication and learning to “fight better,” without recognizing that these communication difficulties are merely the external symptoms of highly overlooked core issues.

 

Unfortunately, so many couples (incredibly desperate for change) continue to be provided false hope… being told that if they would just develop better communication and conflict resolution skills… this would “solve” all those relationship problems (hint: there is a reason the cycles continue… cause this ain’t it).

 

And then there are also the individuals who are seeking hope and direction about how to find a relationship that is “right” for them, as well as how to show up better in their future dynamics… and yet, they are also faced with so many conflicting messages, buzz words, and yet no clear direction on where to actually start… and thus, nothing changes.

 

Consequently, the reason that most couples, and individuals, end up reading book after book, listening to podcast after podcast, and seeing new therapist after new therapist… and yet continue to face the same issue time after time… is because of these futile attempts to “fix” the problem through redundant surface-level advice and suggestions. 

 

After many years of research, both personally and professionally, it became clear to me that there is soooo much more to the story when it comes to creating and fostering healthy, safe, and connected relationships… and that these overrated “communication skills” are only going to get us so far when it comes to truly repairing our relationships. 

 

That is why I developed my approach, Relationship (Re)Programming, as it is designed to help you dive deep under the surface of your ongoing patterns of relational distress, and to discover the truth about what is creating the ongoing barriers that are keeping you from the relationships that you desire.

 

This approach explores and addresses the pain, fear, cycles of conflict, discontentment, dysfunctional patterns, struggles with intimacy, and relational turmoil, that you cannot seem to break free from.

 

The first step in this model is to develop an awareness and understanding of your own “Relationship Programming,” including how this programming influences the relationships you choose, how you show up in these relationships, and why it continues to feels like same ish, different day. 

 

This approach provides the guidance, tools, and skills needed to move out of these cycles of disconnection and into cycles of safety and connection. It also provides the support and empowerment to understand your role within this dysfunction, and what you have the power to change (yes, there are things you can change, even when it doesn’t feel like it).

 

Gentle reminder, that the lack of improvement in your relationships is not due to a shortage of desire or attempts, but rather, is due to being misguided towards trying to "fix" the outward symptoms versus the root cause.

 

No relationship is perfect... but the relationship you desire is possible, and it requires an understanding of where your relationship patterns come from, how they are keeping you stuck, and what to do about them.

 

At the end of the day, relational success is not dependent on “finding” a healthy relationship, but rather on creating one.

 

And in order to create a healthy relationship… We have to start by (Re)Programming all the things that have been getting in the way.